Distinguish between a want which is a WISH and a NEED which is a necessity.
You may want a luxurious home, but may need a peaceful haven. You may want to
buy a variety of inexpensive shoes, but you may need good quality Ferragamos to
keep your feet from hurting. Successful people get their true needs met. When we
pursue what we think we want, we feel empty even after we have it. Be sure to
focus clearly on what will actually fulfill your needs and avoid being
distracted by everything else.
Asking this question puts you in a resourceful state to allow yourself to
find effective solutions. Be open to having new thoughts flow into your
consciousness. If you hear yourself saying: I have no options..., recognize that
you are simply not aware of them right now. Inform yourself of options
Use your logical mind to narrow down your options to two or three. Then, use your imagination to focus in great detail on what would happen it you acted upon this choice. See what unfolds and feel the consequences as if you have already experienced this decision. Take it well into the future by asking: then what?...at least two more times
Take time to be aware of the worst case/best case scenarios and what you
would do in either case. How would that be for you? The result of even one
decision has a domino effect on ourselves and others. Our lives are shaped by
our decisions every day.
It's been said that we are what we believe. Your core beliefs form your
self-image--your identity. They define how you feel about yourself and influence
your decisions through your subconscious. Beliefs are largely choices we've make
long ago and have forgotten. Your decisions mirror your
If you have declared to live your life from a place of integrity, for
example, ask yourself: Does this decision I'm about to make cause me to make a
deposit in my personal integrity account? Check for congruence between what you
say you believe and what you actually do. Being clear about who you are and what
you stand for allows you to make better decisions.
Your intuition is your personal guide to help you sense what is right for
you. To access it, determine how you feel about the decision. For most people,
the best way to do this is to sit quietly, close your eyes and go within. Open
to your body's wisdom. Do you feel calm or anxious? If you feel stressed or
confused as a result of focusing on this decision, it's your inner wisdom
letting you know this is probably not right for you now. On the other hand, if
you feel lighter, peaceful or inspired, this is your validation to proceed.
Think back to a time you made a successful decision and remember how that felt.
Let your intuition be your teacher.
By accessing your intuition, you have learned what is inside of you; now for
further guidance, especially for critical decisions, you need to go beyond
yourself to make sure your ego isn't interfering. This step is a very private
and personal one and you must decide for yourself how best to do this. Some
people pray, meditate or commune with nature. I ask my Higher
9. Do I really expect a positive outcome?
Often we unwittingly sabotage our own success. We do this with positive
intent to protect ourselves from fear, pain or disappointment should it not turn
out. We know now that our dominant thoughts influence with events we experience
and that it is better to act AS IF the desired outcome is already assured. The
key word here is expect, not want. You may
Some undermine their efforts due to a hidden belief that they don't deserve
more. To see if this is true for you, look at your life. Do you find that you
stop at a certain level of success? Do you have an internal thermostat that
causes you to cool down whenever you go beyond your comfort